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• 1. Aliza  |  April 21st, 2007 at 10:11 pm

  I went searching for an answer today. I started to cry, it was awful - and I didn’t know what to do. I locked my door (I am in college) and just let it go, I cried until I fell asleep, I woke up- still very unhappy - and felt incredibly disoriented. Since that moment I have become very unmotivated and have an incredibly important paper to be writing, which makes this entire situation all the more difficult.

  When I was crying, I started thinking how much I wish I had someone there to try to sooth the situation, but I didn’t know who to call, I felt very very very alone, more alone than I have ever felt. I’m sure if I had called someone, practically anyone, they would have come if they were on campus, but I felt weird calling. So then I didn’t call and remained alone.

  Now I feel a bit awkward that I’ve just divulged all this information to you, a random stranger, and actually, technically to the whole world, but your blog helped me get myself in check - and I just felt the need to express my situation and thus the comfort your blog has give me.

  Thank you.

• 2. John  |  April 22nd, 2007 at 9:01 am

  Aliza,

  I’m so glad that my blog was able to give you some form of comfort. Loneliness is a major problem across college campuses today. Please do not feel that you are alone. I know that you have people there for you. Don’t be afraid to reach out. I’ve found that in my life the more I reach out for other people, the more they reach out for me when they need help. This is very comforting and helps to strengthen relationships.

  Spring time in college is the worse. I can easily relate to what you were feeling last night. Please feel free to write anytime you feel a need or urge, getting these things outside of our heads is very important and helps to keep the situation manageable.

• 3. colleen  |  May 7th, 2007 at 6:54 am

  i hurt a very dear friend yesterday. i cant stop crying i know i will see him today. how do i mend t he friendship.. it hurts so bad.

• 4. Sarah  |  November 1st, 2007 at 8:46 pm

  my boyfriend broke up with me about two weeks ago. he said it was because i cried too much, which i do. randomly. alot. it hurts me to know i hurt him… i still love him more than anything and wish he would just take me back. but he wont until i fix myself. if i cry to him once mre im afraid he will pull away. i need someone to tell me why this is happening.

• 5. John  |  November 2nd, 2007 at 8:49 am

  Sarah,
  First of all I don’t understand how you could hurt someone from crying. Secondly if you do find yourself randomly crying you probably need to seek some help. Not for your boyfriends sake, but for your own. No one deserves to feel like crap and cry all the time. I think your best option is to seek a therapist. They will be there to listen to you. They can help guide you through talking about how you feel, and if they feel it is necessary, they can also help you to get medications. There is nothing wrong with you. Depression is a disease much like any other. Good luck, and write back to tell me how things are going.

• 6. cessy  |  November 12th, 2007 at 12:21 am

  :(……

• 7. carl  |  June 5th, 2008 at 12:23 am

  As a man it is hard for me to cry but when I do I feel better. I for one just get lonely and its hard to deal with. Try not to be hard on your self. You may be surprised that the very person you call is lonely too and may really need you. Hang in there!

• 8. Justin  |  June 28th, 2008 at 5:35 am

  I’m a sappy person also, not sure if I’m depressed or what not but I may be I know for sure I’m lonely and defensive. Which are common traits of depression. I usually don’t feel better when I cry though. Usually I’m asking myself what is going on? Why am I? etc, etc. I just gorge myself in music, video games, and music. To distract myself, No real “help” where I’m at. This article was interesting though, helped me a little to understand myself, thanks.

• 9. Edwin  |  July 6th, 2008 at 9:24 pm

  Hi, like 7 to 8 years ago I was a very lonely kid, a teenager that really didn’t know what love ment. Then one day I found someone who made me feel alive, but a year later it ended, I cried for a few months, and then suddenly lost my ability to cry, and I had not cried for a really long time. Sometimes I had provoke myself to cry, but it was false, it didn’t last for a while, just a few seconds and I was dry again, so for a time I gave it up, because I was unable to release what I felt, and I had to lock everything inside. Now a few days ago, I started crying for no reason, and now and then I just see tears in my eyes, and my heart feels weaker, I just don’t feel like myself anymore. I have experience depression my whole life, but it seems to be in a whole new level, not that I feel like I wish to die or anything, I just don’t seem to find any happiness to hold on to, I have a happy thought, and suddenly it vanishes away into tears. Then I think of some problems I have in my life, like those who call themselves friends, and are actually people who come to me when they need something, and that just bothers me so much, and lately I just feel like I don’t want to have friends anymore, and I have a desperate need to be alone. I have nightmares of me running away from all the people I know, away from the place I live, so9metimes, aside of looking for a doctor, I just wish I could go away far, from my past, and from my present. I just don’t know who I am anymore…

• 10. Bonnie  |  July 28th, 2008 at 7:28 pm

  I have been on antidepression medicine for about 14 yrs now.I divorced my husband of 23yrs,for no reason.I was married again {after 10 yrs single} I have been married for
  6yrs.My husband drives over the road,so I am left alone all
  week.Then when he comes home,all he does is sleep.HE
  is an intervert{wants to be alone}I live back in the country.I go to church,But I miss my grandchrildren so much,they live 2hrs away.My husband doesn’t want me to use alot of gas so he wants me to stay at home all the time.I am still very depressed.I am trying to get help from my doctor,
  Please pray for me .THANK YOU

• 11. Dawn  |  July 31st, 2008 at 9:37 am

  I too suffer from depression, and latley, I am just having the most difficult time dealing with things. I can relate to the feelings of being alone that some of you have written about (as my husband used to travel the majority of the time because of his career). Recently, he has lost his job, and with the economy being what it is, he is having a rough time finding something else. Because of the loss of income, I have taken my self off of my perscribed depression meds because the money earmarked for those can go towards groceries. I am feeling myself spiral downward and am crying constantly. When my depression sneaks in (I view my disorder as an enemy that I am in constant battle with), it makes me feel like I am unworthy of everything. Like I am not worthy enough to eat (that food is more important to and should be going to my son instead of myself), I hide away in my bedroom like it is a santucatury because I don’t deserve to be around anyone in my family because I am such a burdon to them all. I honestly feel like God has been putting my family though all of this turmoil because I am a horrible person, so I view all outside circumstances as being a direct result of myself. To top it all off, my oldest son just got married this past spring, and he and his wife are expecting a new baby in Sept. Another other normal person would be thrilled with this; not me. I feel like I will be a failure of a grandmother to my first grandchild and I convinced myself that I will be a curse to him instead of a delight. I hate being such a downer all of the time, but the feelings just don’t change and the tears just don’t stop falling. I would ask for prayer, but at this point, I don’t know if that would fix me or not, probably not because God will know who the prayers are for and slam me once again. Thanks to this blog where I can vent and write how I am feeling, no one else in my family truly understands me.

• 12. John  |  July 31st, 2008 at 10:03 am

  Thank you everyone for your touching comments and emails.

  I can truly relate to each and every comment left on this blog. I think that talking to each other is the only real way to get through these ordeals that we go through.

  Please keep your comments and emails coming. I’m listening.

• 13. sophi  |  September 4th, 2008 at 2:00 pm

  thank you for this blog. its really helped me.
  i dont know whats going on with me.
  but the crying just keeps on happening, i feel so pathetic and alone.
  and i never know who to contact.
  or what to do. i just sit there and sob, sometimes for an hour or two, sometimes for a few minutes.
  it usually happens to me when im at home in the evening.

• 14. DOUG  |  September 5th, 2008 at 1:20 am

  I’M A 60 YR OLD MAN AND HAVE CLINICAL DEPRESSION. I CRY EVERY DAY, SEMI CONTROLLED W/ ZOLOFT. FOR 12 YEARS NOW. MY CANCER, HEART DISEASE, DIABETES, LEUKEMIA ETC. PALES WHEN COMPARED TO DEPRESSION. I WOULD’NT WISH DEPRESSION ON BIN LADEN. ITS THE LONELINESS THAT IS SO HARD TO COPE WITH. WISH I HAD A HAPPY ENDING TO THIS RANT BUT I DON’T. DON’T EVER GIVE UP!

• 15. susie  |  September 6th, 2008 at 10:18 pm

  I had sinus surgery on Feb. 21, 2008 and was treated horribly by the nurse in the recovery room and then humiliated by her when she took me to my room. When I got home the next day the pain was so out of control and I called my doctor and talked to the nurse. She said she would talk to the doctor and call me back. It was a Friday afternoon and she never called me back. During the next three days I had one bad experience with the answering service, the hospital emergency room and the doctor’s nurse waking me on Monday morning with a phone call.

  Ever since that day I have cried and at times have needed to call so someone would be with me. I am so depressed I don’t know how much longer I can go on. I have a doc for the antidepressants and also a therapist, but the depression has not improved. My marriage is a mess because of this and I cannot work so I have no income. What do you do? Is dying the only way out of this? I wait until my husband goes to bed a night to cry. I have realized how very alone we all are and the most important thing is to take care of yourself. I have stopped cooking, don’t have any energy to clean the house and pray for relief that someday it will be over. My therapist, since fired, told me I was just sad and to spend time with my friends. My friends don’t want to see me and others have abandon me because they can’t deal with all of this. How do you find room in yourself to deal with all of the feelings of sadness, dismissal and abandonment?
  My life depression is due to an early childhood trauma which has left me with a massive fear of abandonment. My family was not there for me. I have spent years in therapy and a year ago I was finally getting better and then I developed this sinus problem. After months of antibiotics surgery was the only option. What next?

• 16. sunshineak  |  September 9th, 2008 at 8:56 pm

  i’m 22, finishing up grad school and a full time project manager…

  i think i’m burned out…i randomly cry.. i dont know what to do…

  i just switched jobs so i don’t have insurence at the moment… i’m without insurence for the next 3 months…

  i plan on going to the doctor once my insurence kicks in…

  working a full time job and attending classes 4 nights a week is getting to me…

  it shouldnt be this hard… i think i just need to suck it up and stop whining

• 17. Ny  |  September 14th, 2008 at 7:52 pm

  i almost start crying for no reason but i manage to hold it in most of the time, but during it all i think about is my mates from a few years ago and i too also fell verry alone and dont know who to talk to anyone about it.
  At the moment i have a few friends but i have no close friends anymore i just slowly drifted away from them so i ws wondering if that had anything to do with it.

• 18. cuppy  |  September 18th, 2008 at 7:20 pm

  Been sat crying for the last few hours, I suffer with depression and tonights a bad night. I guess like a lot of us we tend to search for help when we feel this way and somehow I have found myself here. I take some comfort in knowing I am not totally alone in the way I feel, other people suffer and understand.

  People who have never suffered with Depression really have no idea how debilitating it can be, its not just the low moods and lack of energy, its like having all the colour drained out of life, all you are left with is a cold black and white view of things. It takes away your spirit, your enthusiasm but most importantly at times your hope. I wish i could remember a day when it wasn’t there, a say when i felt at peace in myself. I hope that time will come still, but days like this grind you down.

  Sorry to have wittered on, I guess I just needed to express myself somewhere, and here seemed a good place.

  Take care all, and I hope we all find a happy place to be sometimes

  Cuppy xx

• 19. no one  |  October 7th, 2008 at 10:25 pm

  I have made some major changes in my own life lately - and ever since then, I’ve just cried every day at one point or another. I’m not sure if it’s the result of these major changes, just adjustment issues, or if it’s a sign these changes are all wrong for me.

  I don’t know, but I feel like I’m losing my mind.

  I just started grad school and sometimes I feel myself start to tear up while in class even and it’s becoming a real problem.

  I guess I need to start counseling or something.

• 20. m e  |  October 11th, 2008 at 5:02 pm

  I have suffered from depression for half of my life (I am turning 25 in a few weeks). I have not sought help with the exception of one awful time when I saw a psychiatrist who is doing her fair share to give psychiatry a bad reputation. My depression has been exacerbated in the last year or so by painful life experiences.

  Today has been an especially hard day. I too feel very alone. In recent months, people, like my parents, sister and friends, I have reached out to when I’ve been feeling worse than usual have rejected or downplayed my feelings.

  I have always fond solace in the saying “this too shall pass.” As I sit here sobbing, trying to get through the pile of studying I have to do, I am trying to remind myself that this feeling, this loneliness, this sadness, and this life will one day end. And then I can stop feeling and just fall into a deep sleep without having to ever wake up again.

• 21. kc  |  November 4th, 2008 at 3:52 am

  I have clinical depression and right now (the past few weeks) is the worst it has EVER been. I cry nearly everyday, often not sparked by anything, and I can’t stop myself for hours. I feel so alone and don’t have anyone to call because I’ve pushed everyone away. People don’t stick around for long when you always say no to social events (due to extreme fatigue and lack of interest). I guess that’s why I am on this discussion board….

  I’ve just finished grad school and I’m thinking I’ve made a huge career mistake. I feel like I’ve walked down the wrong path and now I’m at a cliff face. I hope this feeling passes.

• 22. Sori  |  November 21st, 2008 at 1:50 pm

  I feel 4 all of you…..I was diagnosed with depression two years ago, but i stopped the medicine halfway through coz i coudlnt take “not having feelings”…..nor happy, nor sad….

  now two years later and out of the blue I have bad anxiety and i cry all the time. I cry about anything, even if im talking to my mother on the phone about trees i feel like crying…everything brings on a cry….

  i am too losing friends because i dont like to go out anymore, coz i find myself wanting to come home early because i feel like crying even when im out “having fun”…..

  i guess its back to the meds, sometimes you just cant make it on ur own……

• 23. Sarah  |  December 3rd, 2008 at 4:46 am

  I have been crying randomly for a long time now. I havent been out in about 7 months cause i ran away last year. I don’t have any friends. I have a boyfriend that i have been with for 2 years but i’m not allowed to see him. I’m going to be 17 in 3 months but i still feel like my mom wouldn’t allow me to see him. The first few months was good I used to study for hours and get straight A’s. I felt so good about myself and i was motivated to excersise and eat right. I looked and felt healthy. Now I have been unmotivated and lazy. I think i’m crazy now

• 24. Serena  |  December 9th, 2008 at 6:52 pm

  Hi,
  My sister called me today and is really feeling bad. She has been crying non-stop for no reason for the past three days. This is not like her. She has called into work and has been sleeping alot! I told her she needs to go in to see a doctor. She is not willing. I am reading and researching on the internet. She does not understand what is going on and nether do I. I have been through mild drepression and only can give her advice what I have gone throught. But, I did not go throught non-stop crying and I knew something was wrong with me so I saw a doctor. Advice is would be helpful. I am consoling her, but I dont know where her depression is coming from, if she dont know herself. HELP!

• 25. John  |  December 11th, 2008 at 11:31 am

  Serena,

  Depression can come from different sources. It can be from life situations, or from a chemical imbalance. Your sister may not find an immediate solution. Keep consoling her and continue to persuade her to seek profession help. Having professional help doesn’t mean that she is weak, most people don’t understand that.

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